In life, for the most part, the vast majority of us have decided that suffering is a bad thing, therefore it is to be avoided at all costs. By living this way, it is quite likely that we are all missing out on opportunities to embrace change, learn and grow. This is the dilemma of what I like to call the ‘suffering avoidance trap’. Are you playing the game of avoidance in life? Are you running away from growing, by staying in your comfort zone? If you are, you are likely not

In the disruptive world we live in, it can sometimes feel like finding joy is like searching for a needle in a haystack. What if I told you that you could be looking in all the wrong places? Would you believe me? If you feel lost, attempting to find the joy, in this disruption that is the world today. Take heart. You are not alone. We have all been taught to seek joy externally to us. To seek it in other people and in things. Only to discover that even once you have all the p

Sometimes we get so caught up in the big acts of bravery depicted in movies, that we forget about the nobility and humility of the small equally important acts of bravery that occur in everyday life. Some days the ultimate act of bravery can be as simple as just getting out of bed to face the day ahead. We all experience these types of experiences some time in our lives. On these days, if you get up, you have achieved success. Bravery looks like so many things when we begin t

The beautiful relationship between a father and daughter is a unique one. Yet it is one that many of us struggle to understand. Fatherhood often comes suddenly and during youthful years when a man may still feel like he is trying to find his way in the world. Men are not alone in this space, as it is something that far too often causes great confusion in the progression of men and women alike. Getting to the bottom of it, to enable better understanding is incredibly import

A healthy dose of positivity goes a long way, particularly in these disruptive times of COVID19. If you are feeling that the world seems to be filled with doom and gloom right now, then maybe you need to consider changing the lens you are looking through. Whilst there is always difficulty in the world, there is also equal prosperity. Great things are happening right alongside things that appear to be terrible. It is all about the lens you look through in life. If you look

The word manifestation has turned into a buzzword of the new era. Yet, it would appear that it is seemingly covered by a veil of some kind of magic. Why is this so? When there is clear science to help us to understand how and where we are in control of manifestation constantly. From our state of mind to the actions we undertake, which lay the path that we choose to take us forward in our life. If you consult the dictionary, to manifest simply put means to have something clear

Freedom! A word that conjures up so much for so many, yet what does it mean to you? Do any of us have or have ever really had true freedom? It seems to be a particularly interesting and yet somehow potentially volatile question to pose in today's world. When we look at freedom through the lens of mindfulness, it opens up an interesting and somewhat complex situation indeed. So let's take a look. We probably should begin at the beginning by consulting the dictionary as at l

In life, we so often seek tirelessly to be understood by those around us. Yet what if I told you that we may have gotten it backwards all along? To seek understanding firstly of yourself brings greatness into your life. We so forget this vital step in life. By doing this we allow ourselves time to foster our authenticity to rise to the surface. When this happens, we in turn indirectly teach others to understand us by example. It is like a giant mirror. Then and only then w

Unconditional love can so often seem like an impossible feat in our modern society. We seek to be loved rather than to love. So why is it that we have unconsciously placed the condition of being loved, within the construct of the love itself that we give to others? To understand this, think of how you would feel if you told someone you loved them for the first time. Only to have the one you have chosen to love, say thank you in return. How this potentially makes you feel is

Discomfort! A word that makes many of us squirm just at the mere thought. What if I told you I’ve made discomfort my new best friend? Would you think I was mad? Has opportunity knocked on your door, but you missed it because you were scared to see the truth, so you ran from discomfort? The interpretation of truth is a worthwhile concept to consider, which can bring profound revelations to ponder in life. We throw the word around like it means only one thing to everyone. Yet,

When you woke up this morning, did you jump out of bed eager and grateful to experience another day of life? Or did you wake up with a sense of dread when you realised that it is still was not the weekend yet? This feeling, by the way, is more commonplace than you first might think. The vast majority of us find it hard to be present in our everyday life. We tend to live in the past in regret, sorrow or reliving the joy we once had. When not ruminating on the past, we are all

The power of love is astonishingly interpreted on mass in our modern society as a polarity of many things. We can feel hypnotised by it, feel controlled by it like a toxic chemical infiltrating every part of our body. Many are terrified to let go and fall deep into the pool of love, driven by the fears of conditioning and imprints left behind by others. Yet, some of us are swept away by a kind of divine love, finding our way to heights of enlightenment. Why are there so many

So we live in an exponential growth technology era right! Where we have literally a technology solution for what seems like everything. We no longer spend the majority of our time, like our ancestors did, gathering food to eat. To top it off, in the western world, we even have a shop or store that has all our needs covered. Yet why are we all still so busy? Are we just busy being busy? These two questions I have pondered for many years. Surely I must not be the only one. Whe

Are you like many of us in modern society, dancing with the inner critic in your life? You know, that voice in your head, that tells you that you are an idiot for the mistake you just made, or telling you to give up before you've even begun. Well, if this is sounding somewhat familiar, be assured you are in good company. You see, criticism is merely judgment masquerading in another outfit. Judgement, through generations of conditioning, has become the socially acceptable nor

We all know that people follow people, not businesses, in the modern world of social media influence. The future's most powerful generations of influencers are buying everything based on how they feel, and we know that feelings come from the heart. So why are the vast majority of us leading our businesses with our heads instead of our hearts? To lead your business with your heart requires vulnerability, transparency and absolute authenticity. Are you prepared to step into you

In the dating world, the standard approach to a first date is the desire to make a solid first impression to win your date over. If you are single and dating, ask yourself, is this approach really working for you? A long time ago at a friend's wedding, her father gave us some beautiful advice, which only became apparent to me many years later. He simply said ‘begin as you wish to continue', with no explanation. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. It seemed like a philos

Is life feeling like ground-hog day to you today? When you woke up this morning, did it feel like the cycle is beginning again, just like it has for what seems like forever? This could simply be a signpost, telling you that you are stuck in a cycle, where you have forgotten to work to live, instead of living to work. We all know that in life if we want to eat, have a roof over our head and stay warm in winter, we must work to earn money to pay for these things. This is a no

Have you ever suddenly stopped dead in your tracks and wondered why you don't feel heard in life anymore, or have you always felt this way? It might be that you don't feel heard at home because you have unfortunately been conditioned by generations of social and cultural conditioning, to put everyone else's needs before your own. Now everyone else, including you, has forgotten about your needs. Or you might have sunken into the shadows at work simply because you have someho

Rumination is an incredibly powerful snag holding us in the past, especially when the present feels difficult. We do this because it feels nicer to reminisce about better times gone by than to deal with a difficult situation that is in front of us now in the present moment. Presence required commitment to stay, whereas rumination is where we hold onto the past where we thought it was better. While we do this, we are not allowing ourselves the opportunity to create the future

Love! Probably the most bastardised word in the English language. A big call I know. However, most of us seem to chase it, dance with it, lose it and suffer for it relentlessly in life as if there is no other way forward. So, it is not crazy to imagine that redesigning your relationship with love might potentially serve you better down every avenue you choose to walk in life. Before stepping out into the big wide crazy world where love feels like an over-expensive commodity,