The power of love is astonishingly interpreted on mass in our modern society as a polarity of many things. We can feel hypnotised by it, feel controlled by it like a toxic chemical infiltrating every part of our body. Many are terrified to let go and fall deep into the pool of love, driven by the fears of conditioning and imprints left behind by others. Yet, some of us are swept away by a kind of divine love, finding our way to heights of enlightenment. Why are there so many

Do you procrastinate, or do you surrender to the present moment? This is a question that has come up for me many times in my life. As I began to study yoga many years ago, I looked closely at the topic of surrender. I became somewhat intrigued to discover that in many instances in my life, I was surrendering to present moment awareness, not procrastinating like many people around me liked to point out. Let's be clear though, life is not a battleground, and surrender is not l

There is what would seem in our modern society a significant problem with undervaluing our worth. We seem to find it easy to value those we love and our possessions, yet for some reason, we regularly sink into a big black hole when it comes to the value we place on ourselves. Why is this so? For you, is it that you were taught in life to put everyone else first? Do you struggle to project your value in your workplace? Or do you struggle to project your value appropriately in

Are you like many of us in modern society, dancing with the inner critic in your life? You know, that voice in your head, that tells you that you are an idiot for the mistake you just made, or telling you to give up before you've even begun. Well, if this is sounding somewhat familiar, be assured you are in good company. You see, criticism is merely judgment masquerading in another outfit. Judgement, through generations of conditioning, has become the socially acceptable nor

The concept of retirement is so often just like the rest of our lives, filled with the overwhelming social and cultural conditioning of fear. We are gripped by the fears of having nothing to do in retirement, and not having enough money to live comfortably. These fears seem to begin early, and as the cost of living continues to rise, so does the fear. When we focus on retirement mindfully, it allows us to be fully present in our present-day life, to create the future retirem

In the dating world, the standard approach to a first date is the desire to make a solid first impression to win your date over. If you are single and dating, ask yourself, is this approach really working for you? A long time ago at a friends wedding, her father gave us some beautiful advice, which only became apparent to me many years later. He simply said ‘begin as you wish to continue', with no explanation. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. It seemed like a philoso

Is life feeling like ground-hog day to you today? When you woke up this morning, did it feel like the cycle is beginning again, just like it has for what seems like forever? This could simply be a signpost, telling you that you are stuck in a cycle, where you have forgotten to work to live, instead of living to work. We all know that in life if we want to eat, have a roof over our head and stay warm in winter, we must work to earn money to pay for these things. This is a no

My father was a stoic man of the era that children should be seen and not heard. We didn't get along, like a lot of people my age, born in the 70s. We were all too busy rebelling against the control of our parents, who ironically grew up in the 60s free love era, go figure! My father, ever so subtly when I was very young, planted ideas that didn't ripen until I was well into my 20s, 30's and some even in my 40's. That is the beauty of planting seeds. One that stands out in

So science tells us that the heart is the first organ to develop during pregnancy. At around twenty-two days, the heart literally starts to beat spontaneously, without a functioning brain. As the brain doesn't start to develop until week five and isn't fully developed until week thirty-three. How amazing is that! To put this into perspective if the heart stops in life we use a three-thousand-volt charge of electricity to start it again. That is enough electricity to run a

Rumination is an incredibly powerful snag holding us in the past, especially when the present feels difficult. We do this because it feels nicer to reminisce about better times gone by than to deal with a difficult situation that is in front of us now in the present moment. Presence required commitment to stay, whereas rumination is where we hold onto the past where we thought it was better. While we do this, we are not allowing ourselves the opportunity to create the future

Love! Probably the most bastardised word in the English language. A big call I know. However, most of us seem to chase it, dance with it, lose it and suffer for it relentlessly in life as if there is no other way forward. So, it is not crazy to imagine that redesigning your relationship with love might potentially serve you better down every avenue you choose to walk in life. Before stepping out into the big wide crazy world where love feels like an over-expensive commodity,

Our relationship to time is significant in life. If life feels like time is flying by before your very eyes, consider where your focus is. Are you present in your life? Or are you one of the many people in life who dread that it is Monday morning and time to go back to work? Or even worse, are you wishing that Friday would hurry up and arrive, and the week has barely begun? We are a society obsessed with time. So much so that many of us run our lives on the fear of missing

The concept of conflict and personal growth might be an uncomfortable journey to endure. However, it might be one of the most rewarding ones you are yet to discover. In life, we all have our fair share of conflict. Whether it be at work or home. The arrival of conflict in our lives, in reality, can have a lasting and detrimental effect both consciously and subconsciously. The long-lasting shadows of past conflicts can leave deep scars. When scratched with new conflicting situ

If you were to ask yourself honestly, would you recognise the imposter when they come to visit you? Imposter syndrome almost seems like a welcome stranger in the natural flow of life. At times, we all question our abilities because we are constantly taught this, through a particularly harsh form of social and cultural conditioning. You are always enough! I want you to think that through because the imposter you run away from is stealing that from you, every time you doubt you

In life, sometimes, one of the toughest decisions to make is knowing when to let go of a relationship that no longer serves you. Getting trapped in relationships that have passed their used by dates are not fun places to be, and the longer you over-stay, the worse things tend to get. Are you feeling trapped in a relationship that no longer serves you? How long have you been making excuses, cutting slack and treading water? These relationships can be with family members, fri

What is your relationship with money? Love it or hate it! The choice is yours to make. However, that doesn't change that it exists in every part of life, particularly in the western world. Some were born living a life of excess, and some a life of struggle, and all seemingly related to the inclusion of money in our lives. Does having or not having money relate to our struggles in life? Is our externalisation of happiness embedded in money, or are we merely attached to kee

Rarely do we get the opportunity to prepare for grieving the loss of someone special from our life. Even when we know it is coming, the inevitable feeling of loss still hits us hard when the day finally arrives. For many of us, even years later, we are still deeply grieving the loss of a loved one. Loss is felt differently in everyone. However, the holding of that loss is relatively the same in us all. When we hold loss, deep within our heart for extended periods, our hea

In the fast-changing world that we live in, it can be hard not to get swept away in it all, feeling sad and lonely in our sorrow. Instead of maintaining a natural sense of happiness in our disposition, we so frequently hide our sorrow, behind a whole lot of smoke and mirrors just to survive. Do you feel like you have no choice but to put on your mask, to present to the world, each time you interact with others? Whether they be your family, friends or work colleagues. Amon

Are you living, haunted by your past? For many of us, this is what can so frequently hold us back in life, often without us even realising it. When we are in a position in life that we are not happy with, it becomes commonplace to either, escape to the past or dream of the future. Life isn't perfect, so we are all prone to this at times. The trick in mindfulness is, to first become aware of our habit to do this because the most joy in life only exists in the present moment

Dependence! Now there is a word that can easily stir up a whole lot of trouble. Just like many other words in the English language, the word dependence certainly has not gone unscathed. If you have become a regular blog reader of mine, you will be beginning to realise just how significant the depth and breadth of which social and cultural conditioning has indeed become entangled within our lives. So what is the big deal about dependence in a relationship anyway? For nearly