Updated: 6 days ago
My father was a stoic man of the era that children should be seen and not heard. We didn't get along, like a lot of people my age, born in the 70s. We were all too busy rebelling against the control of our parents, who ironically grew up in the 60s free love era, go figure!
My father, ever so subtly when I was very young, planted ideas that didn't ripen until I was well into my 20s, 30s and some even in my 40s. That is the beauty of planting seeds. One that stands out in my mind was a poem that he wrote in a very early journal I was writing.
A wise old owl sat on an oak
The more he heard, the less he spoke
The less he spoke, the more he heard
Now wasn't he a wise old bird
I had no idea at all as a child what this meant, however as an adult, the ripening of this seed brought me to a clear understanding of the saying, you have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Yet, in the modern world, many people just don't put this into practice at all. To top it off, we certainly are not teaching this to our children on mass.
There are valuable lessons in silently witnessing life, and listening deeply to others around you, so that you may learn and grow. The less you speak, the greater the potential for exponential growth in life. How cool is that?
I learned to tap into the power of listening by becoming the observer. This mindfulness practice of observation is incredibly expansive both internally and externally. When you lean into this powerful practice, to observe through listening, you gain wisdom about your body, mind and the entire world that is moving at crazy speed constantly around you.
Not only does the powerful practice of observation support your life. It also helps you to engage in the relationships that you enjoy every day with others. When people feel heard, they feel loved. It can help them to open them up to the potentially powerful practice of observation. Then in a beautiful ripple effect, lead by example, we are changing the world by listening, one person at a time.
When you listen more than you speak, you are beautifully healing the world with your silent support. Listening is such a beautiful way to lead with your heart. Learning and understanding those in your life builds stronger bonds that can go much deeper. This capacity to bring rise to much sweeter fruits of your labour can directly result from the mindfulness practice of observation, through listening.
So next time you find yourself thinking about your next response while someone is talking to you. Try dropping into listening, simply for the sake of listening, instead of to respond. You will always be rewarded for observation, with new knowledge, understanding and discovering the beauty that exists in the subtle act of being present.
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