Redesigning the relationship you have with yourself - part 2 - your mind

Updated: Apr 29

No relationship in life is more important than the one you have with yourself. This internal relationship is that of philautia, as described in Ancient Greece. The beautiful art of self-love.

Self-love quite literally underpins every relationship you have had in your past, are having right now and will have in the future. The problem as with almost every word in the English language, this one too has been bastardised. Nevertheless, it is essential here to not diminish the importance of understanding and accepting yourself, exactly as you are right in this very moment.

Every relationship you engage in, whether they be personal or professional, is in fact, a direct reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.

So basically speaking, your relationships with others, are in effect, merely a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. Like a giant mirror showing you yourself. We look in mirrors all the time, yet do we actually see ourselves clearly?

Now, this is where self-love potentially gets real tricky. Hold onto your hat and buckle in because the road is about to get a little bumpy!

Understanding how this relates to the relationship we have specifically with our mind is transformative in life.

To be the observer of the mind in action is a remarkably powerful tool in life. As yoga & mindfulness coach, I frequently teach this to clients, and the results I observe are nothing short of spectacular.

In yoga, this capacity is considered to be a kind of separation of space between you and your mind. It often is a concept that people find difficult to comprehend. However, with a sense of openness, it is much easier to begin to achieve than one might think. Yes, there is some deliberate irony here.

The separation of space between you and your mind through observation happens through meditation. The trap here is that when people are meditating, particularly in the early stages of learning, they look for the results to appear on the mat.

If the only thing you remember from this blog is the next paragraph, I have achieved success, and my work here is done.

Yoga is the art of practising to live. Remember this well. When you practice living with focus, intention and compassion towards your mind, you regain control of it in everyday life. Understanding this can transform your life completely.

I know right! This is the thing people find the hardest to get their head around in meditation. You are probably thinking, how can I possibly practice to live? Isn't living just living?

Again more pun, but here we go! Think about it like building new habits in the brain. In the beginning, it happens simply by being aware of what is going on in the brain. The beautiful power of mind observation. Over time, new neurological pathways are formed through neuroplasticity. Then before you know it, you have better habits of thinking, because you are now the master rather than the slave.

What is the relationship you have with your mind? Is it the master or the slave of you?

Do you want to learn how to redesign the relationship you have with your mind?

Becoming the master begins with you!

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