How the power to heal yourself can become the most beautiful act of service to others

Updated: Apr 29

I write about many topics, but none quite so beautiful as the power of healing yourself to then translate into acts of service to others. Through personal experience, it has become a topic that is very close to my heart.

Everyone has a book in them because we all have a unique story that needs to be shared! This information is something I was told almost eight years ago. At the time, I laughed because I felt there was definitely no book in me. I had no idea I was about to embark on a journey of self-healing, that would culminate in a life filled with beautiful acts of service to others.

In the beginning, I went on a personal journey to rediscover my authenticity, and along the winding road of life, I discovered exactly where I needed to be, right now in this very moment. Life has a way of taking you exactly where you need to go. The only problem is that sometimes in life the places we need to go are painful, scary and sometimes even both.

So today if you are reading this blog and you are in a painful place or scared half to death of how to move forward, take a deep breath because you've totally got this. This moment in time is your journey, and you are right where you need to be. Suffering does not last forever, even though at the time, it feels like it just might!

Understanding the benefits of mindfulness in this space was invaluable to me on my journey and can also be the same for you. Mindfulness helped me to stay present. I was able to honour the current moment, which enabled me to surrender to my feelings. By maintaining spacial awareness and reason, I was able to see the path forward.

Mindfulness is often about understanding your brain first, to recognise how it works. The first stage of the brain develops in the womb and is all about survival. The second stage to develop is the emotional brain, which is all about emotional responses to what you experience in life. This part of the brain acts like the cross over between the survival brain and the rational brain. Then finally the third stage is the rational brain, and this is where we develop our ability to reason.

So we can now see how it makes complete sense, that we can not be in our survival brain and rational brain simultaneously. If we want to cross from one brain to the other, we must pass through the gatekeeper of emotions. Therefore we must have an emotive response. This knowledge in itself is incredibly powerful.

With this in mind, excuse the pun, we can understand how we can truly transform our lives, and support those around us to do the same. The catch is that social and cultural conditioning has made access to the gatekeeper harder than it should be, so we invariably get stuck.

Have you felt like you were stuck in your survival brain? Don't worry if you have because the majority of us have been there many times, whilst some even get stuck there for years, or potentially a lifetime. With work, we can all change this for ourselves.

I began one of the many stages of transformation in my life when I was in my early 40's. I felt completely frozen with fear. I had backed myself into a corner, and my life was crumbling before my very eyes. It was an uncomfortable place to be because I realised I had been stuck in my survival brain for what seemed like years.

Life is like a river, sometimes the water is calm, sometimes it flows fast, and sometimes there are rapids. As you learn to understand yourself better, you can begin the healing process, just as I did all those years ago.

I not only found my authenticity but magically, I also stumbled right into my purpose. I laugh about it often because a few years ago I couldn't have imagined even writing this blog, little own completing my first book.

What is your story? How could understanding it better help you to heal? And how could sharing your story, also help others begin their journey of self-discovery and healing?

So today my passion is to write. It began with a self-discovery process that enabled me to heal. Now my work writing is a joyful act of service to others, in every day of my life.

As a beautiful friend of mine said recently “focus on bringing joy back into your life, and she will bring her tribe of beautiful sisters", or brothers for some of us. That in itself has the potential to elevate you in ways you may never have imagined.

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